Call Summary: Confronting Spiritual Headship and Educational Technology Vision

Overview

Ida called Gary while at a nail salon, where she had just suffered a severe burn injury. The conversation centered on confronting Jesus about his spiritual responsibilities as head of household, Carlos's ongoing struggles post-deliverance, and Ida's vision for educational technology solutions addressing the mental health crisis in schools.

Key Topics Discussed

Jesus's Spiritual Authority Crisis

• The Core Confrontation: "I said, you know, Jesus, our whole life... I prayed for Carlos. I prayed for you. We've prayed for Carlos. But I said, but you, as the head of the house, have never prayed for Carlos."
• Jesus's Blockage: "You don't think you can. You feel like you can't because... You are not all in. You're not all in, because you, too, you hold on to stuff that you think God can't take care of because it's too much a part of who you are."
• Impact on Family Ministry: "Because of that, you've kept yourself, or you've kept the headship, you know, that you, as a father, could offer and pray over Carlos. You're keeping it to yourself."
• Childhood Trauma Revealed: Jesus was sexually assaulted at age 10 by a DEA agent who married his aunt - the same man providing food for the family. "He couldn't tell the family because that's the same man that's putting food on their table."
• First Disclosure: "The first time he told anyone, it was me, when we... after, like, the first couple years that we were married."

Carlos's Post-Deliverance Struggles

• Obsessive Health Anxiety: Carlos has been obsessing since the church service about his stomach issues, constantly thinking "should I eat this? Should I eat that? Should I be on this? Should I just do protein?"
• Regression Moment: "He said, well, just take me back then. Because when I was there, I didn't really even think that I would be. It would work for me."
• Mother's Response: "What do you mean for you? It will work for a million people, millions of people. Why wouldn't it work for you?"
• Deep-Seated Darkness: "He's just lived in this sadness and darkness for so long."

Educational Technology Vision & Mental Health Crisis

• Current Crisis at School: "We've had two kids that have tried to commit suicide" recently, with one attempting after being bullied for his speech impediment

• Texas Requirements: By 2026, all Texas schools must have social-emotional learning monitoring systems in place

• Ida's Innovation Ideas:

  • Automated wellness check-ins: "Kids do a check in. It's like the first three minutes when they get to class"
  • Enrollment efficiency systems for parents who "don't even know how to read"
  • Mental health monitoring using scaled surveys (like ORS)
  • Integration with existing student management systems

• World Changers Program Success: Created program for 80 at-risk students focusing on attendance, behavior, and grades - all improved. One student now potentially valedictorian: "She definitely credits her time in learning in the World Changers that helped her get to where she's at right now."

Ida's Professional Development & Ministry Vision

• SEL Workbook Project: Developed comprehensive social-emotional learning curriculum aligned with:

  • UN's 17 Sustainability Development Goals
  • Texas TEKS standards for K-12
  • Global competencies: "connection, communication, collaboration, creativity and critical thinking"
  • Monthly required topics (drugs, bullying, cybersafety, fentanyl, human trafficking)

• Business Venture: Established "The Red Jay Guidance and Counseling" but hasn't actively marketed: "I felt called to influence lots of people at a time rather than one-on-one therapy"

• Youth Ministry Vision: "Renting a place where I could have a youth, like once a week... mainly like praise and worship and just being an exhorter"

• The Holdback: "How can I do that when he himself [Jesus] is not... He doesn't live his life like that, you know. His focus is work."

Spiritual Warfare & Personal Testimony

• Burn Incident Philosophy: "That's okay. Because I'm covered, okay? Yeah, I got burned. But I have the whole armor of God on me. I have angels surrounding me."
• Early Calling: At 15, unknowingly invited to an exorcism/deliverance. When asked why she was there as just a kid: "Well, obviously God thought different."
• Daily Practice: "Spiritual warfare prayers have always been part of my life. Like daily."
• Core Belief: "We have hope. And we can trust that God's gonna get us through. Versus no hope and trying to make things better on your own and screw up every time."

Key Quotes

• On Identity: "I don't think. Who am I? I don't do that. I know exactly who I am."
• On Ministry Approach: "When I go to HEB, I'm the church"
• On Hope vs. Despair: "I don't know how people exist without hope... the distractions aren't never gonna leave you fulfilled. Never gonna give you peace."
• On Divine Protection: "We're going to be touched in the world by the things in the world, but... The difference between us and people who don't know the Lord is that we have hope."
• On Jesus's Potential: "I have always thought, you know, if... What would happen if Jesus was all in?"
• On Professional Boldness: Regarding sending proposals to superintendent: "Most people would be like, why? Oh, my. I'm not gonna send that. Who am I? ...I know exactly who I am."

Action Items / Takeaways

• Jesus's Spiritual Challenge: Must confront his role as spiritual head and begin praying with authority over Carlos
• Educational Technology Opportunity: Potential to develop comprehensive mental health monitoring systems for charter schools
• Ministry Preparation: Ida considering how to launch youth ministry once Jesus becomes spiritually aligned
• Professional Licensure: Full LPC license expected within weeks, enabling publication of SEL workbook
• Thanksgiving Connection: Gary will meet extended family including marketing-degree niece who could be strategic connection
• Carlos's Journey: Needs continued support as he processes both deliverance and ongoing mental health challenges

Strategic Insights

The Generational Healing Pattern

Ida sees a clear connection between Jesus's unhealed trauma, his inability to take spiritual authority, and Carlos's 24 years of torment. She believes Jesus's spiritual breakthrough is essential for the family's complete healing and their ability to minister to others.

Educational Innovation Opportunity

The convergence of Texas's 2026 requirements, the mental health crisis in schools, and Ida's 30 years of experience creates a significant opportunity for technology solutions. Her insight into the actual needs (vs. what companies are selling) could inform more effective tools.

Ministry Readiness

The family is at a spiritual inflection point. With Carlos's deliverance begun and Jesus being challenged to step into his role, they're potentially on the verge of launching the youth ministry Ida has envisioned for years - but Jesus's full commitment remains the crucial missing piece.